The Weirdest Sense Of Freedom

It’s hard to explain the sense of freedom that comes with taking ownership towards not only your actions but also the results that come with them. I know you can’t have any true control of the outcomes that happen. But taking accountability for the outcome generates a habit of continual self improvement.

I believe we can choose who to be, choose how to act and choose are principles and beliefs that shape us.

Maybe it wasn’t your fault, maybe someone else is at blame for something happening. I’m not saying to take that blame. If it is, that’s for them to deal with and something you had no control over, so why keep it? Although blaming others is hardly useful. It doesn’t teach you much, only how to isolate yourself from others.

But there is always something you could of done differently, and that’s where we should be curious. Whether in response or whatever participation you had. It’s a good system to have where you reflect on what you did and decide what could of done better, what you did well and so on.

Constantly analysing your performance can be exhausting, especially through heavy criticism. This is when it’s important to come with levity and kindness towards yourself to prevent such judgemental disasters. Your intentions are important.

The freedom is not being controlled by your situation or previous results.

A part of who you are is who you want to be.

You are more than what your situation defines you. How you operate in the world is just as important. And operating in a way that encourages growth makes it much more possible to change your situation. To this we must understand the consequences of our actions, learn from our mistakes to do better next time.

This is accountability.

To live your life assuming you’re not doing anything wrong or at least not doing it well enough is a life chained to a form of cognitive dissonance. You’re afraid that the idea you have formed around yourself should not be challenged. Staying comfortable in these beliefs does not support a system of improvement. It is a life of fear.

It’s hard to take a real look at yourself sometimes. To challenge who you are and what you know. To discover your convictions cannot stand the test of time nor the truth of the matter. Because to realise you’ve been living a lie can be heartbreaking. Why do we fear about being wrong or being the one in the wrong? We hate our own inadequacies and insecurities. As if not realising we are all susceptible them. As if we are not allowed to make mistakes.

These challenges towards our beliefs and ideas are exactly what’s needed. Our actions should be put to the forge and ironed out. Our principles pressed against the fire, hammered by opposing philosophies to see what comes out when all is said and done. What was within us that needed to be shed, to help strengthen who we are. The raw versions of ourselves need refining.

Come face to face with perspective that have the capacity to alter you and your identity. It’s our ego that makes us fear the change. Yes we can worry necessarily when it comes to regressing as a person. No one wants to change into the villain. But we shouldn’t let that fear stop us from moving at all.

A good system created with a combination of healthy habits can help guide us towards the right direction.

Give yourself permission to fail, as long as you don’t intentionally mean ill will to others. Trust you can learn from the mistakes and use them as tools for future success. This is all possible with the use of accountability.

Most of the time I don’t to talk as if I’m lecturing others, I don’t want to feel like I’m preaching. However, it is important to establish these conversations, with it’s potential to improve our lives why not right?

Accountability is the freedom of growth.

When you grow old, what kind old person do you see yourself being? A bitter one too stubborn to change and set in their ways? Or perhaps a wise one who questions things with a sense of curiosity. Now which habits turn you into them? Are you turning into the person you wish to become?

We must do the uncomfortable for the benefit of our future selves.